专属的爱情故事

每个人都会有属于自己的一段爱情故事。
不管是开心的，不开心的，开花结果的，必需伤心分离的，
到最后，都是独一无二的。。。

虽然，会时常听见或看见别人经历过的爱情故事，
会有很多很多与自己的爱情故事相似的地方，
但，其实有许多的小细节都是完全不一样的。。。

在每一段感情里，每一个人经历过的小细节都是专属的，
如果有一天有机会谈恋爱，没一个小细节都要好好地注意和对待，
也许有一天会分开，也许有一天会离别。。。
那又如何？

在爱情里，没有对与错，
只有肯或不肯，决定爱就要努力的爱，不惜一切的爱，
千万别把结果看得太重反而忽略了最重要的小细节。。。
就算结果是分离，也会回想起那冬天里喝咖啡的那一天。。。

Moving On

I always wonder how does every individual take relationships as ?
I do realize that everyone in this universe has their own unique mind which thinks and acts differently towards problems !
Well, relationships as in boys and girls which means coupled often adds greater meanings to those who're actually in the circle of love...
While someone embraced themselves into the circle of love, they often don't get to see the big picture of what is truly called a relationship or what's coming from it ...

The fact is, many of us take relationships stuffs too seriously till we often forget our priorities once we fall in love and tends to commit into it !
The problem often comes from the word commitment,,,
Most of the people nowadays do believe that once they're in love, it's once and for all, it's gonna be forever if possible !
But hell, how's that possible ? forever ?

I'm indeed a guy who believes in love, yes... true love !
but if you were to ask me about forever ? hell no !
I believes in my humble opinion, that every substance, events, anything in this world has a start and an end !
Imagine ?
People live and die.
Race starts and finish
Fuel full and empty
Everything in this world leads to an end in the future ...

I'm not trying to be pessimistic or negative! and of course i'm not the kind of negative thinker...
But realistically, the fact is that people never get to let go of their relationships !
once break up, its done and for all ....
To those who are single, heartbroken... i don't mean to be wicked by saying this...
Just think properly and positively about yourself ... if love is so great ?
why not learn to love yourself first before you throw yourself out to love someone or be loved by someone ?
Learn to commit to yourself before committing yourself to anyone else ....
many people in relationships tends to put too much responsibilities and commitment into their relationships therefore, when it comes to the end ... they either fall or crashed too hard !

Talking back about love, as what i mentioned above i do believe in love and i do believe in relationships !
However, i'm just trying to point out on what had actually run through my mind all this while ...

Being in love is the most wonderful thing in this world...
Being in a relationship requires commitment, yes ! but realize the situations and sort out the priorities ...
Being in love makes someone blind but please be strong enough to release the blindfold and look clearly !
Being in a relationship makes someone strong and happy, however, being out of it turns that someone into someone unrecognizable ...
Being in love requires determination, sincerity, passion and trust... abuse it and you're done !
Being in a relationship needs mutual respect and trust...

The truth is heartbreak really hurts !
Just try hard to pull yourself together , or even let someone else have the chance to mend it !
A human does not necessary need another to survive as human are born tough to know how to survive alone !

When it's time to let go, just let it go and move on ..... Life ahead is bright and full of uncertainties to explore into .... ^^ Live happily ....

The Mind

Humans categorized as homo sapiens as well as other living creatures on this planet which we call Earth ...
Based on what we learned throughout our life, we know by our conscious mind that human beings are the most intelligent creature living on this planet and the only reason of it is because we, humans are able to think and act rationally.

As we know, science taught us that human beings think using the brain, yes ! The human brain is extremely unique because it actually gives human beings the power to think, plan, speak, imagine and etc... However, here's the question...

The brain is indeed an amazing part of a human being, but how about the mind ?
How does a human being feel existed in this world ?
Is it the brain or the mind who let's us feel so ?

Human being exists in this world is indeed a fact, but how do one confirms the identity of one...
How do i know that i am Nick ? and stays as Nick till the day i die ?
Which actually comes first ? Do i only born as Nick, live as Nick, die and Nick and never exist again ?

Human beings feels in control when our mind is in active and conscious mode... Self conscious allows us to be able to control our movements, actions and thinking... and that's when we're so sure that we're who we are now... For example, when we're awake... we know exactly who we are, what's our name, our parent's name, what we're supposed to do, our basic role, our personal responsibility and etc... But...

How about when we're asleep ?
Research says that when we're asleep, our brain puts into a rest mode where only a portion of our brain are actually still working where we're not completely dead...
Put it this way, when we're asleep... our brain rests, goes into a sleep mode where we'll be unable to perform actions when we're awake... this is called the unconscious mind...

In my personal humble opinion, i thinks that human beings has incredible mind because our mind allows us to feel existed... and knows our true identity...
i was once asked this question by my uncle, he asked me to tell him whether i think using my brain or my mind ? and i actually answered mind ...

Assuming the human brain actually contains a large storage of computer hard disk which is able to store a terabyte of data, a powerful processor which can run 4 times faster than the existing technology now... the brain can actually function like a computer where the mind is actually the person using the computer ! Imagine how powerful the mind could be...

Human beings are born with basic structure and almost everyone has the same structure and most importantly the brain are born the same with everyone else...
But, why would everyone actually thinks differently and has a different identity ?
The human body i would say is controlled by the mind where religion actually believes that inside the human body contains soul which after a person dies, reincarnation causes the soul to be possessing another new born baby and there, the start of a new life, new person and new identity...

However, i believe that it's not the soul but the mind which is actually the thing which controls and confirms the identity of one, feeling existed in this very body of one...
I always find the human brain and mind are the most amazing part of a human. The brain which is the physical, tangible one and the mind is the mental and intangible one...

I would continue talking bout the mind and the unique way of human thinking in my next post when i get more inspiration and knowledge while my thoughts go wandering about how fantastic one's mind and brain can be ... The most amazing part of a homo sapien is how one actually think which differs from one another... rite, this all might looks a bit like crap to some of you... but if you're interested we can surely discuss about it ! haha

tune in to my blog for more as more sux philosophy will be coming up =)

Human beings, known as the most intelligent creature on this planet because of the ability to think... however, which is actually the one controlling the human thinking ?

AGGRESSION, INSANITY ?

something unbelievable jz happened last nite at about 11.50pm till 12.30am ...
something incredibly unbelievably unexpected happened which cause 3 of us in shock !
this incident made me realize how far the lengths of aggression can reach ...
aggression is a kind of anger or furious in any person...
if you are able to control your aggression well enough, things would be calm ... however, if one is unable to handle the anger within, the lengths of what can be done is far unpredictable and unexpected !

i'm gonna skipped the part on who is who and wad actually happened ... sry about tt ...

What i'm gonna share is sumthing which i personally think is crazy and insane !
on tt nite while we're on our way to our destination for the tea session ....
one guy actually jumped on top of the hood of my fren's car !
we were all startled when we heard a "BAM" sound on top of our heads !
we wondered who or wad the hell was that who jumped on top of the hood ....
in jz an instant, we saw hands holding the side of the car and started banging and punching the roof!
wad happened was he actually tot we were following him home and claimed tt he was in a defensive mode tt's y he jumped on top of the hood and started attacking the poor Iswara...

We were all terrified and startled, panic till the driver went as fast as he could hoping to throw him away from the hood ... however, failed ... and we reached an empty space ....

We were scared if we pulled over, what would happened to us !
Therefore, the driver started spinning the car hoping to throw him down or rather hold him on top while i make a police report so that the police can come to help us...

The worst thing is while he was on top, he kept shouting "TOLONG" to the guards nearby the building we're at ... and continuously punching the roof and also the windscreen of the car...
When he heard me calling the cops from outside, he started to punch the window on my side of the car and cursing me to stop ! Amazingly, the police took about 20 mins to reach the scene and eventually we stopped and came out of the car in relieve .....

The insane guy who was on top of the hood of the car ( i shall call him KKK ) finally was willing to come down of the car ....
Once he came down he started talking unstoppable to the cops trying to explain what he was trying to do on top of the hood ...
The funny thing is that he claims that he works as an Research Asistant in some company, a Tutor for some University which he said the full name of the University in confidence and also !!! a BEKAS TENTERA and is about the age of 29 almost 30 !!! WTF !...

When asked, he claims that he jumped on top of the hood was because he suspected that we were actually following his car to the place where he stays to harm him !
He claimed that he actually shouted at us from behind to ask us to stop ! but hell, who could hear someone shouting from the outside of the car while we were inside a moving car ?

He was in an insane mode while he was on top of the hood, cursing, punching, tearing up whatever he could tear from the car ! omg, poor Iswara....

We were then asked to lodge a report at the police station ...
the police who heard about what happened was shocked about KKK's doings ! who wouldn't ?
the insanity, aggression and i would say courage who could make someone jump on top of the hood of a moving car is incredible !!

I'd say that the driver and me are pretty innocent haha !...
I realise that aggression could cause one to go to an extreme where unpredictable actions could be done ....

Of course, aggression aren't natural or came when u're born...
people feel aggressive for some reason where maybe something other people had done to them or a way to feel more secure or in a way to defend urself from something...
However, one never know when the anger inside will erupt as a living or dead volcano ...

Believe it or not, aggression can really drive someone to insanity causing them to great lengths of actions.... therefore one must learn to control emotion and fight aggression ....

Incomplete

living in this world is so full of uncertainties, you'll never know what will happen the next minute or even the next second...
sometimes, things just happen before you even know it...
however, it's often too late when you realize the truth ...
the truth is what has happened can't be rewind...
life isn't like movie or music, we can't rewind it or undone it...
whatever done is done, whatever hurt is hurt ....
this is the reason why people always regret in the things they have done...
coz we never realize the impact or result of our doings...


truth vs lie
sometimes, knowing the truth is worst den being lied by someone...
however if you were to ask me, i would rather lie if the truth is unacceptable...
i understand that to keep someone in the dark is bad, but often a lie is better than telling the truth...
sometimes, knowing that it's a lie can also be hurting...
however if you were to ask me, i would rather not speak than to lie...
however if telling the truth, lying, and not speaking is not applicable... i might choose to leave...
often, people hate to be lied and kept in the dark ...
however, telling the truth can hurt 100 times more than lying...
so, to lie or to tell the truth ?

Lying is bad, but sometimes a lie is more beautiful than the truth... as the truth is often ugly...

i've been trying to understand myself for a long time...
most often, i'll be lost and unable to find the true me...
however, i always do things following my heart... neglecting what's beside me...
i do understand that i always do things ended up hurting people i care...
and often realize it after things can't be undone...
calling me a "jerk" or "bastard" is the best word i think...
this time, i did things against my principle and go with my feelings again...

a glass which is broken is unable to mend, even if it's mend, the cracks are still there... as it'll never be the same again...
a bucket of water which is poured away is unable to collect back, even if it's collected back, the amount or quality of it will never be the same again...
a piece of paper which is torn is unable to glue back, even if it's glued back, there are still holes... as it'll never return to the original...

Life is unrewindable once the play button is pressed....

Backstreet Boys, Incomplete ~

爱一人

如果你不爱一个人,
请放手.
好让别人有机会爱她.
如果你爱的人放弃了你,
请放开自己,
好让自己有机会爱别人.
有的东西你再喜欢也不会属于你的,
有的东西你再留恋也注定要放弃的.

人生中有许多种 .
但别让自己为一种伤害.
有些缘分是注定要失去的,
有些缘分是永远都不会有好结果的,

爱一个人不一定要拥有,
但拥有一个人就一定要好好的去爱她.
男人哭了是因为他真的爱了.
女人哭了是因为她真的放弃了.

如果真诚是一种伤害,
我选择谎言;
如果谎言一种伤害,
我选择沉默;
如果沉默是一种伤害,
我选择离开.

如果失去是苦，
你怕不怕付出 ,
如果迷乱是苦，
你会不会选择结束,
如果追求是苦，
你会不会选择执迷不悟 ,
如果分离是苦，
你要向谁倾诉,
好多事情都是后来才看清楚,
好多事情当时一点也不觉得苦!!!!

L-O-V-E != Love

if someone were to ask me about "what is love ?" i will tell him/her that love is about commitment, responsibility and care in general definition. However, if were to ask me to describe love in my own point of view, i will say that love is depending on one's heart, where one will know when love comes without any logical definition... Love comes and go without someone noticing it... it'll be gone forever once someone misses it... However, if one is able to read the signs about it arriving, one will be able to grab it and never let go...

L-O-V-E, Natalie Cole ~~

Sometimes, one will tell you that which belongs to you will be yours sooner or later, but i don't believe in this kinda nonsense.... Why do i call this nonsense ? it's because, nothing will be determined if one just sit there and wait... yea, you might call waiting as waiting for fate... (if you believe in fate) Yes, i do believe in fate... strongly, i believe that everything in this world, in life is fated, where who and who become friends, who and who become couple and who and who become enemy... However, i believe that when fate comes, one must learn to grab the fate... which pure waiting for fate is crap and useless ! To me, once fate arrives... if one is unable to see the signs and grab it, it'll be gone and not for temporary while its forever... which makes one regret in the future... Therefore, if you learn that fate has arrived ... where you think he/she is the right one... never let it go when you didn't even try ....

爱我别走, 周杰轮 ~~

In my point of view, as what i always tell/advice my friends ... Trying to win someone's heart is actually the same as doing business ( if you understand how is business ) where the right amount of investments and effort will do the trick ;-) ... *confused* ? haha Talking about love, i will once again congratulate my sis as she had stepped into the sea of love being able to share happiness and woes with her husband which now i call him my bro-in-law... I witnessed my sis's wedding last sunday(7/9/2008), a memorable event of the year ! I'm happy, very happy that my sis has finally get married with her love one... I admit that i really enjoyed the moment of marriage where couples work hard for this very memorable once in a lifetime day ...

The very handsome groom and the utmost beautiful bride (my beloved sis)

There, as i had always tried to help my friends in their love relationship problems... i had gone through different types of cases where different people manages relationship differently where different relationships results in different outcomes...

Whether it is happy or unhappy, i always take it as a lesson or guideline of my life where i'll use it as reference if one day the situation occur within mine...

Love is sweet, if one knows what it is ... however, love can be bitter if one feels the core of it ...